Is it the canoe or the thrill of paddles dipping in still waters on a late summer’s eve that plays on your heartstrings?
Intuitively the answer would be the paddles dipping in still waters. The image lingers on as if I had just experienced it yesterday, as if an artist had taken a brush and forever etched the memory into my subconscious mind, to be recalled at will upon my pleasure. It was magical. Just the two of us in one canoe on a lake hidden away in the Rockies. The sun warmed the treetops for just a few minutes before dropping out of sight, the sudden darkening of the skies and the feeling of the forest closing in, shivers up my spine as from the distance came the distinctive came call of the loon thus breaking the silence of the approaching darkness.
I love it. This experience. It is both magical and mystical.
That boy Carlos is at it again. On this week’s Sunday Shorts he talks about living a life of collecting experiences not things and threw out a challenge to his readers to write about some of their experiences and the feelings that go with those experiences. I decided to step up to the challenge and scribble a post here on Blog Income.
I didn’t have to think long to recall that moment and the thrill of experiencing it.
The older you get the more such experiences you have – I have a vault of them.
The first time I was awarded a medal for scholastic achievement. The mother superior pinning the medal on my uniform. The pride in my parent’s eyes that evening. The photo for posterity.
Going horseback riding in the mountains over loose gravel trails with hundred foot drop-offs praying like I’ve never prayed before asking for the horse to be more sure footed than its stumbles then looking back to see how my friend was faring and seeing her face with eyes tightly shut! Another horse ride, this time galloping on the sands of an open beach. Same animal, different experience.
The birth of each of my children – the boy so beautiful, the girl so lusty of voice. Tears of joy and sometimes sorrow in sharing their own growing up experiences, now that is an experience in progress ..lol..
Freezing and knowing what it is to feel the blood run cold as I gingerly stepped from one set of straight up stairs to another – no platform to aid the manoeuvre – and inadvertently looked down to the waters hundreds of feet below the Sydney Harbor Bridge. The momentary hardening of my grip on the handrail and the slight delay before steeling my nerves and continuing the climb to the top of the bridge.
Australia again. A flock of emus, about twenty of them grazing in a meadow just feet away from the road suddenly taking flight as we emerged from the car. The sight was majestic. These seemingly ungainly birds pranced away with such grace, their feathers flouncing like that of a ballerina’s costume,; indeed it was a dance choreographed in the wilds by mother nature herself.
Scores of others. Captaining the basketball team to a championship trophy, watching a black bear cross a patch of clearing just feet away from where we were seated on a mountain ledge, seeing the Folies Bergere in Vegas and the girls perform at the Lido Caberet in Paris – now that’s enough to make any girl feel envious!
But back to the canoe. That is a thing. But for as long as I had it, I loved it. And there are other things that I will never part with, the handmade Christmas decorations that my children made in grade school, photos, a small wood Ainu carving of a bear that my best friend gave me, a pearl necklace from my parents and lots of other “things.” And I’ve always wanted a Mercedes SL550 (used to be SL 500) which I have yet to get, but when I do, it too will give me pleasure.
So it really does depend. Precious things can be as pleasurable as experiences. But the exercise really got me thinking. The things that are precious to us are those that are associated with pleasant experiences. Experiences often cost money. I recently read that as boomeers are approaching retirement the things that they look for are experiences, travel is not so much a week or two on the beach but more likely visiting places that are off the beaten track, such as visiting the Antartic, booking the Tsar’s New Year’s Eve Ball in St. Petersburg, Russia; cycling tours, hiking in the Patagonias, and so on. Still others are going back to school – doing their masters or PHDs, or taking up painting. Some take up blogging for money!
The thing is that no matter what your age, live life to its fullest. Each day cannot be an adventure but it can be a life lived well.


#1 by Carlos Velez on May 3, 2010 - 05:17
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Each day can be lived well…
Absolutely. That makes me think of this past Friday in the Velez household. I came home after a terribly stressful day at work to my wife who also had a bad day and we were all set to have a miserable night together. But we talked about it and decided to have a better evening together.
Rather than complaining about my work (as I had been all week), I decided to think of a solution to improve the workflow and solve the problem. Crazy thing is, I did. We talked through my wife’s problems of the day, took care of ourselves with a solid dinner from Subway and ate it at the lake while we talked some more and enjoyed the beautiful weather.
It’s an experience that we chose to have together – a simple and memorable one.
.-= Carlos Velez´s last blog ..Sunday Short: Commit to a Lifetime of Experiences =-.
Twitter:@goldenkoi[goldenkoi]
#2 by Valentina on May 3, 2010 - 07:54
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Hey Carlos!
We always have a choice when faced with not so perfect situations – we can wallow and feel sorry for ourselves, or, like what you did, we can decide to meet the problem head on and tackle it. Not only did you tackle the problem and find a solution, but you ended up having a great evening with your wife … it’s all about choice.
Twitter:@goldenkoi[goldenkoi]
#3 by Kevin@InvestItWisely on May 3, 2010 - 08:52
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This is a great post; I think it is all about the experiences. It’s about the memories that we make and the memories that we share.
Even when we save money in the future, invest it in stocks, or whatever, in the end this is for a future experience. We are saving the money so that we can later go on vacations, buy the house we dream of, or get the car we dream of… so one day, this money will also be used for experiences.
That’s why it’s important in the end to have a bit of balance… to not just save for retirement but also to work on the things today that bring you enjoyment… such as blogging for income? Haha, I wish I could say that… hopefully one day!
.-= Kevin@InvestItWisely´s last blog ..Becoming a Rich Man (or Woman) =-.
#4 by Valentina on May 4, 2010 - 08:19
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@Kevin -
Make money = experience good experiences
I like that. Many “things” provide good experiences.
@ Catrien -
I like Steve Jobs saying “...stay hungry, stay foolish“
Twitter:@goldenkoi[goldenkoi]
#5 by Catrien Ross on May 3, 2010 - 16:48
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Valentina, lovely post, thank you so much. You expressed it so eloquently – it is what we experience that makes our memories, not what we have. So a lifetime of meaningful experiences creates a heart filled with meaningful memories. Thank you for sharing some of your memories today – such poignant writing.
In the last line of your post you wrote about living fully and well. I ended my latest blog post with exactly the same sentiments. As my father used to say, great minds think alike – then adding ….. fools seldom differ. Can we be great fools?
Please drop by to enjoy photos of a cultural experience you may have seen when you lived in Japan – samurai horseback archery – and the personal growth inspiration the event stirred in me.
Morning greetings again from the mountains of Japan – Catrien Ross.
.-= Catrien Ross´s last blog ..Catrien Ross on Hitting Your Target at Full Gallop – Personal Growth Inspiration from Samurai Horse Archers at Mount Fuji =-.
#6 by Des @ Affiliate Progress on May 4, 2010 - 09:05
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Hi Valentina,
memories every time for me! I’m finding just how much of a millstone a life time’s worth of posessions can be when you want to move on in life. Memories weigh nothing at all.
.-= Des @ Affiliate Progress´s last blog ..Are Blog Comments Important? =-.
#7 by Valentina on May 4, 2010 - 09:13
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Hi Des,
Memories are indeed the greatest treasures of all! I like the idea of daily treasure hunting.
Twitter:@goldenkoi[goldenkoi]
#8 by Walter on May 4, 2010 - 16:36
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Most of the time, memories are all we got. When things cannot satisfy us much further, memories will do its magic to bring happiness into our hearts. The are also memories that are etched in my heart, and in my moments of despair I seek comfort in them.
.-= Walter´s last blog ..Things I Wish Everybody Knew About Life =-.
Twitter:@goldenkoi[goldenkoi]
#9 by Valentina on May 4, 2010 - 19:51
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Hi Walter,
Yes and memories unlike so many “things” are lasting.
Twitter:@goldenkoi[goldenkoi]